Friday, February 19, 2016

Dressing Your Truth

There is a little bit of a back story to this post. At the beginning of 2014 (over 2 years ago now), I set a goal to love my look more. I was feeling like a frumpy mom, and Zia wasn't even a year old yet! I had fallen into a rut of wearing yoga pants or pajamas all day unless I was going out, and that was just not working out for me. I dyed my hair, switched around my wardrobe a little bit, tried my hand at sewing my own clothes (with mixed results), embraced some of the current style trends, and still felt like something was lacking.

A few (frustrating) months into the "love my look" experiment, my mom told me about a new system she'd heard about called Dressing Your Truth (DYT for short). It is a fashion system based on energy profiling. The overly simplified explanation of DYT is that there are four energy types, and everyone has different amounts of all four energies inside them--one of them being their "dominant" or "primary" energy type. There is a free profiling course and book that helps you figure out which dominant type you are. Figuring out your type takes into account your facial features, body language, mannerisms, personality, and more. After you figure out your type, it's time to buy the course for your type. (If DYT is something you're interested in, you can use my link and we both get $10 free store credit at the DYT store. Click HERE to learn more.)

So, let's skip to summer of last year, when I first bought the course. I started out thinking I was a Type 2, and I had a hard time with a lot of the aspects of Type 2 style. I didn't love the muted colors, felt frumpy in the flowy styles, and hated the lace and ruffles I was apparently supposed to wear. However, I felt much more put together and did my best to keep the "rules." I got pregnant with Brielle a few months later and even got rid of a lot of my non-Type 2 maternity wardrobe. However, there were a few things (especially black things) that I loved and wore anyway. I had a lot of doubts about my type, thinking maybe I was a Type 4 after all, but I got lots of compliments for dressing the way I was and thought I was probably overthinking it. However, after a whole bunch of doubts, reading and rereading the book, and watching all the DYT videos a million times, I realized that I was actually a Type 4. My mom and little sister had been telling me I was all along, but I was stubborn and tried to prove them wrong. I had been dressing as a Type 2 for over a year, and I had gotten rid of almost all of my Type 4 clothes! Instead of being too drastic and getting rid of all my Type 2 stuff, I went to the thrift store and bought a few Type 4 outfits to try out. This was one of them.

I felt like a different person! I stopped trying to embrace my wavy hair and wore it straight or up (which is how I preferred it for most of my growing up years). I put on bold lipstick and saturated colors and black and white and looked so much better! I posted this before and after on the DYT Type 4 (T4) page, and everyone was freaking out. Carol Tuttle, the author of the book and creator of the course, even asked if they could use it on the main DYT page as an example. I said they could. It's crazy how different I look!

And so my T4 journey began... The T4 ladies on Facebook quickly became "my people," so to speak. I decided to cut my hair. I accepted some things about my personality that I had been in denial about before. I slowly sold or traded my T2 wardrobe for new "bold and striking" clothing. I'm still working on it, but it has been so much fun to develop my new look! I have settled on Type 1 as my secondary type, which explains why I'm not quite as serious and "still" as some other T4s. I still love to be with friends and family, though I'm an introvert at heart. It's an interesting dichotomy of personality traits that all try to work together in my head... Anyway! Just for kicks and giggles, let's look through some of my outfits from the past six months or so.

Then I finally got the guts up to do something I'd wanted to do for a very long time (but felt I couldn't)--chop off my hair! Again, I felt like a whole new me! I got so many compliments, and people told me my hair suited me like never before. "It's just so YOU!" they would tell me.

There's kind of a funny story behind this next shirt. I was watching the TV show Bones with my husband one night when the main character, played by a fellow T4, Emily Deschanel, had on this exact same shirt. I instantly fell in love. I was bouncing up and down on the couch and squealing, which is not usually something I do. Haha. :) But I found it on Poshmark a day or two later (basically online thrift shopping--use my code for free money, once again ;) you can use my code, PKOYW to get $10 off your first purchase). I was thrilled! I bought it as fast as my fingers could fly, and it showed up in my mailbox a couple days later. Such a great find. :)

T4 pajama pants from my best friend in junior high or high school...I can't remember when she gave them to me. But they're still going strong!

I made myself some T4 pajama pants for Christmas Eve. Yay! I bought a cheap Walmart t-shirt to go with it.

I think Brielle is also a T4. She's not technically dressing her truth in this picture, but she looks great in black, white, and bold colors. Little cutie! She has lots of T4 characteristics, too.

And my latest haircut from two days ago! It's the shortest it's ever been, since I was a toddler. But I like it so much. It dries so quickly, is versatile, and is so much more me than my long hair ever was. I'm not saying I'll have short hair forever, but I'll definitely stick with T4 haircuts and styles from now on. It makes a big difference!

And this is me today. I'm rocking a faux hawk for the first time in my life and totally love it! I have been wanting to try this look since I first tried a pixie cut last summer, but it was too long. Now it is short enough, and it is SO FUN! I told Austin this morning that if someone had told me in high school that I would eventually have, not only a pixie, but a FAUX HAWK pixie...I would have laughed in their face. Well, younger version of me, you were silly. Because this is awesome.

I unintentionally twinned with Brielle today. She also had on hot pink pants and a faux hawk, which was fun. :)

So! That's all my pictures for now. Someday soon I hope to actually start using my DSLR for OOTD pics and blogging about it. I mostly need to find a spot in our little apartment that gets good light and has a nice background. And then add a few more hours to the day for projects and blogging.

Things I've learned through this experience:

  • What we wear really affects the way we feel and the way others feel about us. People treat me the way I want to be treated, now that my outside matches who I am on the inside. 
  • I love black, navy, white, kelly green, cobalt blue, and hot pink. I wear other colors, but those are my favorites. I come back to them again and again. 
  • DYT has AWESOME online communities. I have made so many friends (both in the T2 and T4 groups) through this experience. I've even met a few of them in real life, which is always fun. It's great to meet like-minded people.
  • Some things are going to be hard to get through. I had to accept some things that I didn't like about myself when I realized I was, in fact, a T4. I have been shamed for a lot of my life for some of my personality traits. Realizing that I can have certain tendencies and personality traits while still being a good person was a big part of this process. There are people who may not like these things about me, but I should not try to act like a soft, subtle, sweet person if I am bold, striking, and direct. (These are keywords from the T2 and T4 courses, respectively.)
  • I am finally ready to build a capsule wardrobe for spring! I have been wanting to do it for a while but haven't gotten around to it. Now I know which colors are going to work best for me and what styles will get the most wear. I can't wait to get started!
  • Type 4/Secondary Type 1 ladies often mistype themselves as T2s for various reasons. There is a great YouTube video about it!
  • Use the YouTube channel if you have any questions about typing. I wish I had been more thorough with watching them before I first decided I was a T2. 
  • I LOVE cat-eye eyeliner. It's my favorite.
  • People close to you will probably be shocked by the change. You might be shocked by the change. It's okay! Enjoy the journey. :) 
If you have any questions or comments, I'd love to hear them! Thanks for reading!